She grew up in the States but due to her heritage speaks fluent Russian.Her confession about dating Russian men is a must read for anyone wondering about courtship customs and rituals in the countries of the post-USSR.According to the hunter-prey dating model that is accepted as a statute in Russia, the lady has to resist advances for as long as she can (usually not for long, due to the overpowering siege by the male).“Russian men are quintessential gentlemen on first dates,” writes Bruk. They open the door for you and pull out your chair.” And they pay for the dates. Even true-to-the-core feminists apparently can live with men paying for them, if this is a “custom”.I would add, especially in capitals such as Moscow or Piter (the affectionate nickname of Saint Petersburg). I would say, Slavic girls believe that for a female beauty is everything.Just like in western capitals, people tend to dress up more. Petersburg’s ladies] you pluck your own eyebrows and only get a facial once a month, [they] will look at you as though you have just clawed your way out of a swamp,” confesses Bruk. And the main reason why it is important is to attract and keep a boyfriend or a husband.This is her exact wording: Girls, apparently, are used to relentless pursuits, and unless they feel you are putting “all in”, they are not convinced that you are really interested.
To provide for herself, she was teaching English in St. “The first thing that you’ll notice when you get to Russia is that the women are astoundingly beautiful and immaculately presented”, she says.Because there are large numbers of Russian and Ukrainian women seeking partners abroad, some observers assume that Slavic ladies dislike local men. Eastern European women exploring options of dating internationally are fond of Slavic men, they simply cannot find the one who fits their portrait of a good partner and at the same time likes them back.Even western women find Russian men charming and feel they have a lot to offer, which they would love to find in their partners locally.“If he hits you, that means he loves you,” quotes Diana her mother’s saying, the old-fashioned Slavic belief, which is the reason why domestic violence in Russia is still widely underreported — as well as most other forms of physical assault, making it a “norm” rather than a crime.
Calling her relationship with Russian men “convoluted”, the daring New-Yorker goes on describing the peculiarities of the local dating etiquette.“You do not meet a Russian man, you are chosen by one,” proclaims Bruk.